Spring Clean Out.... Big Time

I’m in a tightly choreographed plan to rearrange and clean out my home so that we can create a dedicated “man cave/TV/napping room” which I am hoping will end up being a very good thing to lighten up my overly crowded dwelling.

So after a winter of hibernating in a haze I came up with this great idea (smiling ruefully here) and worked with my engineer/project managing husband to come up with a plan….without which we would not be doing this!  He would have dug in his heels.  Hard.  Mom and Dad, who plan to use that same room to have time away from each other while staying in their RV here, arrive in June and we are sort of lazy, so we really have to push ourselves to do a little every weekend!  Luckily we planned for that...

But even though we are not that into the nitty gritty work of it, once we start I get really excited and very proud of us both for getting going on this major project.  And the rewards will be very good!  I want my parents to come here and stay with us, as they are starting to slow down a bit and I have felt quite disconnected to them the last few years while they have pursued a “snowbird” lifestyle.  It's been a hard time adjusting to the transitions of my family from being anchored by my mother and father (and the social setting they have provided in the past for all of us to gather) to a family with a long distance matriarch who just isn’t up to steering this ship any longer.  And what scares me is the possibility that the rest of us will just drift apart.  I’m not denying that change from the old model was probably a good idea, but finding the new way, a way where I can still find connection with my three sisters and their families, has been quite a process for me.  It brings up all the questions of when do you finally stop being a kid and start being a leader in the family, and how will the rest of the family take that?  Especially a family with four headstrong sisters!!!   We are not doing too badly on that front, though I miss seeing my sister Tia because she works too hard.  But Dana and Drew and I have been working on it, and it feels good.  

So I’ll leave you with that for now, with wishes and hopes that you are able to find the connections and blessings that you want and need to be happy!  Blessed be.